I haven’t spoken of my Fibromyalgia (FM) much to friends and family. And I’m terrible when it comes to asking for help. As I get older, I’m realizing the importance of having loved ones to rely on. Life is not easy, especially when you are experiencing an illness. I need support. I need fibro friends. I need people who understand. In some ways, my blog was born out of the desire for support. In almost two decades, I’ve only connected with a handful of others with FM.
Do you love someone who has fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, or any lingering illness? This person needs you. Here are a couple of simple ways you can offer a helping hand:
- Ask your friend how she’s doing–and let her vent. Most likely, she doesn’t look sick. Many chronic illnesses rob the suffering of their fullest life without the outward display of disease. Your friend may not have the opportunity to talk about how she feels very often, simply because nobody knows to ask. Let her have a good cry. You never know how much she may really need it.
- Take something off of her plate. Watch her kids for a couple of hours so she can rest. Prepare a meal and drop it off. Offer to swing by the grocery store for her. A small act of kindness can mean everything to a friend who just needs a break.
- Get her moving. I have a sweet friend who likes to go for walks. She has invited me along and I love it. We, Fibromylagia sufferers, need to keep moving. Invite your friend for a stroll around the block or the mall. Depending on the severity of her condition, maybe she would be willing to join you at the gym from time to time. Encourage your buddy to stay active. Which brings me to . . .
- Be encouraging. Chronic illness is lonely. It’s scary. It has moments of hopelessness. If, as you read this, you have a friend in mind who has FM, encouragement can be a special gift. Text her from time to time. “I’m thinking of you and I hope you’re having a good day.” So simple. Yet so huge.
- Pray. I saved the best for last. God heals. And He hears prayers. Here is a simple prayer for you to use for your loved one: Father God, I lift _____ up to you in prayer. I pray that you put the right people, doctors, and knowledge in his/her path. I pray it is your will to heal him/her. Amen.
Also, remember to be gentle with your friend. The pain that we feel can often make it tough to be touched, tapped, or squeezed.
Thank you so much for reading. You’re a good friend.
If you are suffering with FM, chronic fatigue, or a similar condition, please comment: how can someone help you today?
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